It’s All In The Mindset

Mindset.

It truly is what molds our perception and outlook of life. Nowadays it is a heavily discussed topic within sports, business, relationships, and even education. Why? Because psychologists have discovered just how important one’s mindset is based off of multiple studies, but can I let you in on a secret? God already knew that.

“For as he thinks in his heart, so is he…”

-Proverbs 23:7 NKJV

Mindset is simply an established set of attitudes held by someone. The two most common ones that are being taught and discussed today are growth and fixed mindsets. Let’s think about those names for a second.

Growth. When I hear that word I think of new opportunities, new skills, abilities, and/or talents, more increase, new heights, greater accomplishments, and more. However, I also think about bigger risks, harder work, more effort, and pain because let’s face it, you can’t have growth without pain.

Fixed on the other hand makes me think of comfort zones, familiarity, routine, tradition, and/or staying the same. No risk to be taken, no work to be done, and no effort to be made, and most certainly no pain.

Today I challenge you to really look at those two words. Growth and fixed. What type of year do you want for yourself? Do you want your 2019 to be a year of growth or a fixed year?

I understand the fear that comes with having a growth year. It’s not easy to take risks and no matter how many times we may have gone through it, no one likes enduring pain, but that’s where the mindset kicks in. If you could only view it as your process, because that’s all it is. One part of the growth process. Yes, it’s scary. Yes, it can and will be difficult at times and yes, some things are going to hurt, BUT in the end you will find that the results are well worth it.

Choosing to have a growth year and actually making it one can be hard, but take it from me. If you don’t make the effort it will hurt you even more to look back on December 31st, 2019 and find yourself in the same exact place as you were on January 1st. Growth hurts. I’m not going to sugarcoat it for you. It absolutely sucks sometimes, and there are days where it frightens me. However, what frightens me more is the thought of me staying in the same place for so long.

I urge you to make 2019 different. I urge you to make the effort this year. I urge you to grow. Not just for your sake, but for others as well.

Check your mindset this week. Turn your can’ts into cans, won’ts into wills, or just remember to add the yet! It’s still a new year, and even if you don’t think so then guess what. Tomorrow’s a new day. So get growing, Beloved. I’m rooting for ya!

Rejoicing always,

Davina

Don’t Forget The Yet!

We are officially two weeks into 2019  and usually around this point of the new year people tend to throw out their resolutions and revert back to their old habits. The question is why. When making a change or starting something new why do people tend to give up after a certain amount of time? It’s simple. They don’t see any results.

Have you ever been there? Can you relate? I know I can. I know what it feels like to eat well, abstain from junk food, and exercise daily only to jump on the scale and see the same number I saw before. It’s discouraging, and that’s what really gets to us. Discouragement.

So many people will put in a lot of effort in making changes in the beginning of the year and as time progresses their efforts diminish because they don’t see any results. I have something to tell you though…

Don’t forget the yet.

The word yet simply means up to now: so far or at a future time. Can you imagine how much your perspective would change if you just added this simple three letter word to end of a sentence?

I haven’t lost the weight yet.
I didn’t get promoted yet.
I don’t own my own home yet.
I’m not debt free yet.

By adding yet, you’re stating that it hasn’t come to pass but it will! You’re declaring that you are still in expectation. The thing you need to remember is to keep putting in the work and effort needed to allow the results to come.

During the sermon this Sunday my pastor said this:

Expectation + preparation + effort = results. No expectations + no preparations + no effort = nothing

It’s as simple as that. Lastly, I leave you with this.

I remain confident of this:
I will see the goodness of the Lord
in the land of the living.
Wait for the Lord;
be strong and take heart
and wait for the Lord.”

-Psalms 27:13-14 NIV

Stay in expectation, keep moving forward and remain confident. I’m rootin’ for you, Beloved!

Rejoicing always,

Davina

_________ New Year!

Happy New Year!

For quite some time now this has been the greeting that people have used to welcome each other into the new year. As I’ve gotten older I have realized a few things.

The first being that a new year doesn’t constitute for anything new except for just that, a new year. There are many who use (and believe) the phrase, “new year, new me,” and I will admit to being one of them in the past. However, the truth of the matter is, if you’re going into the new year with the same mindsets, beliefs, and habits that you had in the old year then guess what. The only thing new is the year itself.

The second thing that I have come to realize is that not every new year is a happy one for some people. Speaking from experience, I know what it feels like to not want to enter the new year. After my grandmother had passed away I didn’t want to walk into a new year knowing she wasn’t going to be with me. Welcoming a new year can be hard for some people. Some may have experienced devastating loss, unimaginable pain, or unspeakable heartache within the past year which may lead them to fear the unknown of the new one. Happy would not be the word they would use to describe the new year.

After coming to the realization of these two things I made a few other realizations. The first being that a new year meant a fresh start. It didn’t mean that I would automatically have the daily motivation needed to eat better and exercise daily or the immediate strength needed to break old habits. What it meant was that I could start again. Which also led me to another realization that with each new day I could also start again. This year I want to encourage you to take a look over your life, set some goals, and make some changes. If you mess up, backslide, or fall short one day don’t throw in the towel just yet. Just start again the next new day. You don’t have to wait for a new year to make changes. Make the most of each new day.

Another realization is that by saying, “Happy New Year,” isn’t just a greeting but it’s also a wish that others have for you. It’s something for you to receive for yourself. It’s a choice. The only person who can determine if this new year will be a happy one is you. Some days it may seem hard to choose happiness, but I do know that it makes life so much better. This year that is my wish and hope for you. That you not only choose happiness for yourself, but that you embrace it wholeheartedly this new year.

The last realization I had is that you have the power to declare whatever this new year will be for you. That is why the title is left blank. It is for you to fill in for yourself. Declare a prosperous new year over your life or a healthy new year, or maybe even a determined new year. Whatever you declare over this new year I pray that it betters you and that it comes to manifestation as well.

Lastly, I leave you with this.

“Forget the former things; do not dwell on the past. See, I am doing a new thing! Now it springs up; do you not perceive it? I am making a way in the wilderness and streams in the wasteland.” -Isaiah 43:18-19

I’m excited for the new things God is doing in your life! Speaking of new things, weekly blogs and Table Talks will now be moved to Tuesdays in this new year! Thank you for all the love, support, and patience. We’re excited for the new things Beloved’s got coming your way!

Make it a blessed week and remember, you are Beloved.

Xoxo,

Davina

Thanksgiving

I recently met with my pastor and we talked about praise and worship. We discussed that we know how to praise God when we are going through something, but he made a good point. He asked me, “but can you still praise God when things are going well?” His question brought it to my attention that sometimes we overlook the many things that God has blessed us with, so today’s blog is all about just giving God thanks.

1 Thessalonians 5:18 simply says, “give thanks in all circumstances; for this God’s will for you in Christ Jesus.”

Can we do that today? Can we just give God thanks no matter what circumstance we may be in? I know we’re looking forward to the amazing lunch/dinner that will be on the table, but don’t forget to give thanks for the many blessings around the table.

Thank God for everything, big and small. Why? Because he didn’t need to bless us, yet he did and I’m grateful.

This Thanksgiving I am most thankful just to be here. I’m thankful for my life and the amazing people in it.

I’m also thankful for you, Beloved. I pray that you are able to give thanks in every circumstance. I pray that you know that you matter, you are thought of, and you are loved. I pray that you have an amazing thanksgiving.

Have a great day and know that you are beloved.

Happy Thanksgiving.

Xoxo,

Davina

 

Worship

Worship. It is often paired with praise. Sometimes, it may also be referred to as a slow tempo song. The question remains, what is worship? Yes, I could give you a definition from the dictionary or the bible, but I still don’t think that would answer the question. See, worship is so much more than just a definition. I don’t believe that you can truly define worship because worship is love, and love is something that no one can ever really define.

When you ask someone what is love, you’ll get a bunch of different answers. Why? It’s because love looks different to everyone. There’s more than one way to love or show love. The same goes for worship. There is no exact way to worship. I recently learned that worship can be singing, dancing, standing, clapping, bowing, shouting for joy, and more. The way we choose to worship God is also our way of showing and telling God that we love Him. There is no right or wrong way, but what makes it special is the same thing that makes love special. It needs to be true.

True, genuine worship is not dependent on feelings, emotions, or circumstances. It’s contingent on God and who He is. Worship is our way of telling and showing God how much we love Him, even when life seems to be going downhill. It’s telling God that He is our great provider, even when the gas tank is on E and the refrigerator is empty. It’s telling God that He is our healer as we make another trip to the doctor’s office. It’s telling God that He is faithful even when we’re having doubts. Worship, like true love, is deciding to stick it out when times are good and bad. Worship is telling God that you love Him no matter what.

Worship is special to me. Worship has gotten me through some of the toughest and darkest times. I’ll be honest with you, I didn’t always want to worship God through those moments but I knew that I had to. I couldn’t afford not to. See, as much as I doubted or hated the situation I was in, I couldn’t stop worshiping God. Every time I did, every time I told Him who He was in my life, every time I told Him that I loved Him despite all that was going on, He came and saw about me. He came and comforted me. He came and let me know that I was not forgotten and that I was loved.

Worship is the key that grants you access to God. You don’t need to know how to play an instrument or sing on key to worship God. Just talk to Him. Let Him know why you love Him. Praise is all about magnifying God for what He has done, but worship is all about expressing your adoration for who He truly is. That is why people can worship God in their toughest times. Although their situation may have changed, they know that they worship a God who never does. He remains the same mighty, faithful, compassionate, and able God today, yesterday, and forever more.

I’m currently learning and studying how to go deeper into my worship with God. In other words, I’m seeking to know Him better and more. If you’re like me, or maybe want to start to know about this amazing God for yourself, then I highly recommend reading the book of Psalms. There you will find David, a man after God’s own heart and a true worshiper. The way that this man speaks of God makes you want to know Him like that. I also hope that as your knowledge of God grows that your relationship with Him does as well as your worship for Him.

Worship is simply your way of telling God that you love Him and remember, He loves you too, Beloved.

Xoxo,

Davina

Praise

I love November! The year is quickly coming to an end, the holidays are approaching, and it’s a great time to reflect on the many blessings in our lives. As we celebrate the act of thanksgiving this month we want to dive into the topic of praise and worship. Our hope is that throughout the month you develop a better understanding of what praise and worship is and that it turns into a daily act of thanksgiving for you.

Praise: the expression of approval or admiration for someone or something.

This past weekend I went to a restaurant and was unsure of what to get for my appetizer, entree, and dessert (it was my first time there so I was skeptical on what was good). When I asked our waiter what his opinions were on my choices his response is what sold me. He raved about how amazing the crab stack was with its combination of cucumber, mango, and sauce on the side. He deliciously described how the flavors of my ribeye steak would be complimented by the crab stack, bearnaise sauce, and asparagus. Lastly, his reaction towards their cheesecake was all I needed to confirm my choice.

I don’t think you caught it though. The waiter was able to express his approval or admiration towards these options because he was knowledgeable about them and had experience to go off of.

Praise is easy. It’s us who complicate it.

I’ve heard people say before that they don’t praise God because they don’t know how. The truth is, we have all practiced praising before.

We praise restaurants, movies, stores, clothing brands, etc.
We praise sports teams, athletes, movie stars, music artists, celebrities, etc.
We praise our jobs, our careers, our bosses, etc.
We praise our significant other, spouse, and/or children.
We even praise that little device you’re probably reading this on (our cell phones).

We express our approval or admiration so easily towards these things without even realizing it, so the question remains, “why is it so hard to praise God?”

The answer is simple. We lack the knowledge.

Let’s go back to the waiter. It would have been hard for him to speak about how delicious an entree was or go into details about it if he didn’t have any knowledge of it or had never experienced it. He couldn’t have praised if he did not know.

The more you know God, the easier it becomes to praise Him.

You’ll rave about his faithfulness unto you (2 Thessalonians 3:3), his strength (Psalms 18:1), and his unconditional, never ending, never failing love towards you (Jeremiah 31:3).

How do you get to know God? By spending time with him and reading his word.

Once your knowledge of God increases so will your praise unto him and you’ll find yourself praising God every chance you get (Psalms 34:1 MSG).

The more you know God the more you express your admiration of Him.

Remember, you are His beloved afterall.

Xoxo,

Davina

 

Loved.

“I had fallen in love with Jesus just to find out he was already in love with me.”

I heard this on the radio last week and it made me sit back and say, “wow.” It was a statement that I already knew was true, but was something I never really thought of. Jesus didn’t have to fall in love with me because he already was.

That statement is still so crazy to me. When I think of people falling in love I think of them spending time together to get to know each other better. While doing this they make sure to put their best foot forward. They do whatever it takes to make sure their best qualities and traits are exemplified and in time they slowly ease their way into telling/showing the things in their lives that they prefer to stay hidden. Why do we do that? Because most of the time we don’t want to put our business out there. We don’t want people to see our mistakes, our past, or our “junk” at first because we don’t want to be judged by it or scare them away. We want to be truly and genuinely loved and most people feel that it’s impossible because of the things we may have done.

However, here is a man named Jesus who knew you before you were even born. He knew of all the things you were going to do in your life, both the good and the bad. He knew of the accomplishments you would achieve and the struggles you would face and he also knew that there would be a possibility that you would never come to know him. But guess what? He loves you still.

Yes, you read that correctly. Jesus still loves you.

He loves you despite your flaws.
He loves you despite your mistakes.
He loves you despite your shortcomings.
He loves you despite your sin.
He loves you even if you strayed away.
He loves you even if you don’t love him.
Jesus loves you.

How do I know? Because Jesus still died on the cross for you and I. He didn’t pick and choose who he carried the cross for. He did for everyone.

See, although I try to hide my mess from Jesus, the truth of the matter is that he already knows. He knows it all, but yet he still loves me. I didn’t need to do my hair, wear my best outfit, or talk about my best qualities to impress him. He loves me because I am his. What an amazing love.

This is just one of the many reasons why I love Jesus. It’s because he first loved me. He loved me when I thought I was worthless. He loved me in my darkest times and he loved me when I didn’t want anything to do with him. Despite all of that, he continues to love me because his love is not contingent on anything that I do. His love is unconditional and it extends to you as well.

Our hope is that as you grow in your knowledge of God and in your identity, that your love for Him continues to grow as well. Know that no matter what your past may look like, you are greatly love and there’s nothing or no one in this world that could ever separate you from that love.

“Yes, I am sure that nothing can separate us from God’s love—not death, life, angels, or ruling spirits. I am sure that nothing now, nothing in the future, no powers, nothing above us or nothing below us—nothing in the whole created world—will ever be able to separate us from the love God has shown us in Christ Jesus our Lord.” Romans 8:38-39 (ERV)

Xoxo,

Davina